A GIRL LIKE ME

This is one of those nights you can't get to sleep. So why waste the night away by staring into the darkness as I await for sleep to envelop me again. Having put that in mind I decide to persue what does 'a girl like me' need /expect from a man.

For y'all who really know me this is the alpha-female side that infected me a long time ago. Anyway, being an alpha-female, as I came to realize, does not necessarily mean the 'self-sufficient', aggressive, control-freak, masculine chic... Now this is a topic for some other day!

Back to where we were, about what I want or expect from a man:-

1. Intellect - This does not necessarily mean outwit me (but if you could that will be a plus). Intellect does not call for outrageous mind games or a who's smarter now kind of competitions. I need someone who can help me view a better way to get through the challenges I go through everyday. Somebody who I can have a mind-stimulating conversation and caoable of a nice analysis as to what opinion I hold without much as wrong judgement.

2. Integrity - A man who lacks an exaggerated view of himself and too much pride. The one who can account for his actions in relation to morality. I don't mean a super 'holy' someone. He might have his past full of skeletons, but he acknowledges it and has made a remakable outcome from it. Integrity does not call for status, wealth or ego, this is a facade that many men believe. and the idea keeps them from growing and learning. I need a such kind of a man because I ill be able to respect him.

3. Authentic - Whenever a lie catches up with someone, not all money in the world could ever buy it back. It is a shame. A lie can only be covered up for only too long. Well, i vouch for the rule that states  'deny, deny.. deny!!! to the point of death'. But in the real sense, dealing with the truth, no matter how much it hurts puts the whole 'thing' on a 'how do we deal with this ground'. I need someone with complete openness and honesty about his interactions and so on..

4. Conservative - I know the times have changed and blah blah.... But seriously, the degradation of social norms is bringing a great impact to the kind of families we about to have. The issue of separations, mistresses n all that which has 'openly' sprout up and  is affecting the ol'skul way of raising kids. I don't want that at all. For those young ones to live a complete upbringing, they need 'both of us'.

5. Sensitivity - How can a guy talk of love if he is incapable of compassion and concern? Men bear the brand of animosity as it is assumed they have no/contained emotions compared to women. Funny how women fall for guys who show the slighest bit of sensitivity, this may be a good sign, but it is not all there is to it.

6. In-control - A guy who can control me to be precise. I  can not be tamed # though you can try haha!! Never mind that, back to serious business. By control I do not mean, outdo, overpower or manipulate. To be in control is more like to govern; to purposefully direct. For me to put my hands below your feet, you have to go down on your knees first... Submission goes a long way, and even the toughest of the alphafemales can succumb to the sweetest person. to be in control needs total dedication, a keen eye, a remedy at hand... e.t.c.

7. Godfearing - Yes, I need a guy who knows God, so that he can be a mentor plus more. When all courage fails, we will know where to tap the strength to go on. It will be a common footing for us for where we started and a clearer picture to where we heading.

Well there might be more than 7, guess it is too common a figure. Anyway, a long day awaits in a couple of hours, time to go back to sleep.