The deepest desires of any human being is to be appreciated, needed, accepted, understood and loved. It explains why we have friends’ circles and why we act nice and pleasant to those we care about; why we put up with them even when they are wrong or infuriate us; why we seek love that comes not only from those we are related by blood but go an extra step to those we have no bonds with; why we look out for our loved ones so that we won’t see anyone hurt them. Basically it makes us feel worth and brings a whole lot of sense as to why we should live life and not just exist.
Among the many kinds of friendships, relationship with opposite sex is most sought. It makes two people feel like they belong together with each other. 88% of songs relate to the state of love which identifies two people together and phases they go through when in love. How they want to be cared for, their various expectations, what hurts them most and such. People at some point in life feel like they need this kind of love and it feels like their sole reason of existence which however is not.
They say behind every cynic is a frustrated romantic and I am neither of these. It is simply proper to sideline feelings and view things from a fair ground. For starters, as people, with our obnoxious desire for love, we tend to fall for just anyone who comes in our way showing the tiniest of real interest. It is like a game where trial-and-error is allowed to the widest extent. As desperate one might be, I most definitely do not believe that all frogs coming your way should be kissed before identifying your true prince(ss).
In the context of what the heart wants, the heart gets; it is true that we go for our heartfelt desires and people depending on how deep we are involved. It is most definite a great feeling to want someone and be wanted in return. To identify that one person you would like to spend your life with and build on your dreams together. It has to be 1, not 2or 5 people. Working on a relationship with one person is tedious enough, wanting to work with different people is simply senseless. When there is something wrong with your partner the red lights and alarm go off in your head, but we tend to ignore the most obvious signs and hope for things to go right. Clearly we are to blame for agony we go through with heartbreaks as we tend to try even harder to work things out that lead nowhere.
Purely physical relationships with no attachments seem to be at the top of the trend. Friends with benefits, having casual fun for convenience purposes for both parties involved is an adventure that many indulge. Getting physically intimate with someone you don’t appreciate is like opening the Pandora box metaphorically speaking. It is never purely physical simple. It is either a rebound over a past experience or a lie we want to live in. If two close friends choose to indulge it interferes with their closeness at some point.
Commitment is one thing that scares people. A whole lot of questions run in our minds like:- what if they are not the one; what if they are just lying; what if they are not good enough or I am not good enough; how pretty are their exs and how close were they; how different are we from their exs; what if they are not completely over them; what is in their past and can we cope with it; what if we get too involved and find out we can’t cope/compromise; what if they die... When someone’s love is lost, their life is completely thrown off. It happens and that is how life is. As insecure and inferior one may feel, you have to find the guts and say it is your chance to try things out, the person is worth the risk and hope for the best.
Love is an inducement of the mind and heart. There is no expert in how, when, where we fall in love. It is something that works itself out when we thought it wouldn’t. It depends on the two people involved, their creator and destiny. Simple!!!
Yours truly,
Alpha female
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